“THERE IS NO FREE LUNCH, IF YOU WANT TO ENJOY SOMETHING, YOU HAVE TO PAY FOR IT”
So basically, this is how the dating world works, guys always expect something when they do something nice for you. If he takes you out for dinner, he expects a kiss, if he takes you on a fun trip even if it was his idea and he insisted, he expects you to sleep with him. Basically, most guys don’t do nice stuff because they just want to do it. There is always a Catch. If you ask me, honestly it can be pretty frustrating and a ton of women feel the exact same way, and at a point I started to think I wasn’t enough and I couldn’t get a guy based on the fact that am funny and cool and all that, that just this once he doesn’t want to sleep with me, but as I grow and meet so many guys I have come to realize that “men look for sex first before they look for love”. They are driven purely by what they see, men are like sharks that need to keep on moving and constantly looking for the next meal to devour.
If he’s been talking to you for a week, plans a date, picks you up, takes you out and grabs the checks, drives you home then you can be rest assured that if he is at all confident, he is definitely going to make a first “move”.
How far he gets is up to you. Then the 2nd, 3rd maybe 4th date same thing is gonna happen. Men see this as an investment, I honestly believe that somewhere in there head they believe they are sowing a seed ( you know the clothes, the money, the dates and all) and after a while which is usually a very short time, in fact in no time at all they expect to rip PEACHES. Sometimes it might not even be sex, for a very few of them, they want to have “some physical contact that would maybe someday lead to sex”. But eventually, the end game is to get you in a doggy style.
The truth is, all you can do is figure out how much you like him, how much you trust him and how far you want to go. Your boundaries are your boundaries. your job is to (1) Figure out if your man is interested in you or the sex and (2) Figure out how to make it fun for him to slow down. Sex isn’t all or nothing and as long as you can take him around the bases slowly, you can buy yourself enough time to figure out if you want to be exclusive with each other.
Stop feeling sad that a guy meets you and he wants to sleep with you just like that, i guess BOYS WOULD ALWAYS BE BOYS, just be careful and makes sure you thnk with you brain and not your heart.